When in a relationship there is one word that always comes up, and that word is
“compromise.” There are going to be many situations and topics that couples will
have to come to an agreement on, but at the very same time there are some things
that each individual believes in, stands on, wants and don’t want that are “non-
negotiable.” This month’s blog post is all about those topics that you need to wrap
your head around before getting into a relationship, or before saying “I do.”
1. Political Views
Whether you are seriously into politics or not, it is important to understand where
you stand and where your partner stands. Would you be okay if he or she did not
share the same political views as you? Along with the party sides, other things that
fall under this category are same-sex marriage, abortion, the justice system, etc. It
would be ideal if you and your spouse agreed on all of this.
2. Religious Beliefs
Finding out what one’s religion is, is something that is vital prior to getting seriously
involved with someone. If you are religious, do you need your partner to have the
same beliefs as you? Is there room for differences in belief? Religion is something
that can guide one’s life, be sure this is an early topic of discussion.
3. Marriage
What is the ideal age that you want to get married? Are you the type who even
wants to get married or do you prefer to keep it title free? Marriage is a big step in
one’s life; you should never have to compromise on this topic, so find someone who
agrees with your views as well.
4. Sex
This topic is one that you should have ironed out in your mind before dating and
getting into a relationship. You do not want someone making this decision for you.
Decide what you are and are not willing to do, if anything at all, and make sure that
your partner is okay with that and respects it. Along with sex, you should discuss
sexual history, boundaries, and much more.
5. Children
Most people do not have this conversation until they are sure that their
relationships could be headed somewhere, however early on there is no harm in
getting an idea of how many kids if any that your partner might want. Decisions like
these along with the ideal age to start a family could often change in one’s mind but
having that basic conversation can cause no harm.
6. R-E- S-P- E-C- T
A relationship cannot progress if there isn’t respect. Be conscious of ones words,
actions and behaviors early on because that will give you insight into how they will
treat you in the long run and how they will handle situations.
7. Gender Roles
Being seen as equal in a relationship is a must. Once that is established you have to
discuss where you and your partner stand on roles such as household tasks. Some
people feel strongly about not doing certain things, or what their expectations are
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